Grandfather's Love

I was overwhelmed with love for a stranger sitting next to my table. I felt the urge to hug him But of course, I didn’t, so as not to alarm him. He reminded me of my grandfather who I’ve never seen. I silently sent my love to both my grandfathers. It is because of who they were that we are who we are. And it is because of who we are that people around us are. All the more important I turn up more as myself. As I am. 

 

We’re never only just ourselves though, isn't it? We are the amalgamation of so much love and energy of those before us. Of parents, grandparents, and those before them. Of relatives and friends and teachers and even those we don’t really know. 

Relationships are amazing. They teach us who we are and possibly who we can be. 

 

Grandparents’ love is unconditional, selfless. They are so doting, so pampering, so caring. One is fortunate to have enjoyed their love. We need that as children. Play and pampering. Well, we need that always. We receive stories and values that are passed on for generations. We receive their wisdom and experiences. The hard times they went through and the good times…they are a perfect example of the hero’s journey. It is another kind of love. A beautiful thread that binds grandparents and grandchildren. They have gone through so much to give us so much. 

 

We must honor them by doing the same and we do. Take care of our loved ones. We must love them through gratefulness and giving. 

 

We carry our grandparents with us. 

 

I’m wondering what it would be like to adopt grandparents. To experience their inexplicably beautiful, pure love. 

Never Feel Homesick

I’ve been thinking about Home and what/where is home. Trying to figure this out since I like to and want to travel. Is my home within me? I’d like to think so, but I’d like the concept to be clear to me and sink in.

Well, there is the physical concept of home – its warmth and comforts. What is Home? Home is your space – a physical space but not just that – it’s a space of love, peace, joy, caring, nurturing, a space where you’re comfortable with yourself, your guard is down, you are more yourself, you are relaxed. Can you feel that within yourself so it’s not very different when you travel? So you won’t feel lost. 

 

External circumstances and environment may change. What doesn’t change? 

My anchor and my radar! 

 

So, what’s your anchor? – my values, my experience, my confidence, my belief in myself, my priorities. 

 

Your radar? – is the direction I want to take, the kind of life I want to live. Am I clear about that? Yes, I am.

Learning, Growing, Experiencing. I want to be more present to myself so I can experience life to its fullest. Ways to do that – exercise, meditation, focus on breathing, being aware of your thoughts. (Incorporate into daily routine)

Nature, different thinking, cultures, learning new things, being open. Living life in each moment. Fully. 

 

Then why do we feel lost at times? When we take on and live other people’s energies/lives/way of thinking/expectations. Let’s be more aware of that. Behavior and reactions should be yours, not influenced. 

 

Important to be most comfortable with yourself, just the way you are – accepting, loving, being your own best friend, enjoying your own company.

 

They say Home is where the Heart is. Focus on and choose more and more of those activities (and people) that fill you with Joy. Focus on yourself. The more Know Yourself, the clearer you’ll be. 

 

How does this translate for me?

1.     Love and be kind to yourself, no matter what

2.     Exercise, meditate, focus on breathing, focus on thoughts

3.     Focus on all that brings you JOY and LOVE

4. Remember Anchor and Radar always, especially when you’re lost – that’s Home. You can stay in that place or go to it anytime, anywhere. 

Judgement

Judgement is ego poking at us from fear or pride. It is an idea of perfection in our head, based on our conditioning. 

 

Judgement prevents us from being present because we’re addressing a situation or a person from our pre conceived ideas and notions that may be unclear. 

 

Once we let judgement go, life becomes more peaceful. We start accepting situations and people more readily. We're able to see and hear the other person better by being present to ourselves and others. Connections become more comfortable and relaxed.  

It's also about respecting the other for who they are. Once we decide we don't want or need to judge and be judged, we react differently to situations and people. The other person has the right to be treated without bias. So do you. 

Anything of course that we want to apply to the outer world, we must apply to our inner world first. So if it’s no judgment of another, then it's no judgment of myself too! Hard yet important. Worth trying. Its freeing yourself from pressure!

Once you become more accepting of yourself as you are, you tend to become accepting of others just the way they are. Its liberating not just for you but for the other person as well. Nobody's under any pressure or wearing masks. It opens you up more to this amazing world and to connections. Beautiful new connections surprise you. 

How does this translate for me

 

Become aware and say ‘nah ah No Judgy’, when I'm forming opinions based on my ideas or conditioning or experience 

 

When I'm being hard on myself... I say to myself... It's okay I still love you. I love you just the way you are. It’s okay. You're okay. 

Spaces

I have been fascinated by spaces between musical notes... Its spaces that make a piece of music so special. The meaning, the emotions change.

It's similar to life. Spaces make relationships special and valued. More exciting too. You look forward to spending time with someone and that time spent is more valuable, more fun and exciting because you dont know when you'll get it again. You don't take the person or that time for granted. 

Its the same with your relationship with life. Create spaces. Don't stuff it with things, to do lists, relationships that stifle you. Spaces will help you listen, tune in to your rhythm. Tune in to the rhythm of the Universe. Be quiet. You'll understand you know it all. That life runs within you. That the Universe runs within you. You are the Originator, the Creator. 

Its the same with your relationship with yourself. Give yourself the space to Be. Then one can Learn and Grow and Create. Allow space. We are made of spaces. Of a rhythm that flows through us. If we can sing to our own music, we can experience a freedom and space of our own. A place where we can be ourselves. Free of everything. All need. All want. All bonds. We could learn to go that place anytime and stay there. 

So let's contemplate on Spaces in ourselves, our relationships, our lives and living. Maybe that'll help us find and tune in to our own rhythm and make our lives a beautiful piece of music. 

How it translates for me 

You don't own or control anything or anyone. You came with nothing. You are a creation of The Divine. You are here to make music. To sing to your tune. If you have forgotten it. Find it. 

Don't hold on to anything or anyone too tight. Allow them their space. They have to live out their karma and their lives. Even though it may not be easy, allow it with kindness and peace. 

Create space and time and love for yourself. You and others around you will be better off. Experience life for yourself. Go within. Alone. Minus dependency on any name, place, animal thing.

Do share how it translates for you. Maybe I can try them out too.